Remembering Your Vows

"I ______ take thee ______ to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife

To have and to hold from this day forward

For or worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish;

Until death do us part.

According to God’s holy ordinance.

This is my solemn vow."

These are just one of the traditional vows that have been used in weddings around the world, specifically, Christian weddings. Many couples use traditional vows, write their own vows or use a combination of both. Have you ever taken the time to review the vows and understand what they truly mean? We have been asking couples did they read the vows and discuss them before going to the altar. The answer has been almost unequivocally, NO. It is no wonder that couples struggle in certain areas in their marriage.

In this article, we review the history of marriage and some interesting facts. Then we break the vows down into 4 parts and discuss the meaning of each. To go deeper in each one, you can watch the 4 video vlogs that we created in our private Facebook group at If you're not married yet, but planning to, check out our premarriage workshop at


What are marriage vows:

  • Marriage vows are promises each partner in a couple make to each other during a wedding ceremony

  • Vows communicate a message to your future husband/wife and express commitment

  • Vows are a great resource for understanding marriage

  • Marriage vows are not in the bible (some are based on biblical scripture principles)

  • You can personalize vows to make them your own

A little history of the marriage vows:

  • The oldest tradition of vows trace back to medieval times.

  • The earliest record on file was 1662

  • In early years lower classes had ‘free marriage’ or 'common law' marriage. The Brides father delivered her to the groom and the two agreed they were wed and by mutual consent agreed they would keep the vows of marriage.

  • Wealthy Romans signed documents listing property rights to publicly declare their union was legalized and not ‘common law’ marriage. This was the beginning of official records of marriage. (17 BC-476 AD)

The marriage vows defined: